grey tunic sweater: H&M (similar)
skinny jeans: J Brand (similar)
ankle booties: Sam Edelman c/o Aeropostale (exact and on sale!)
hooded coat: Forever 21 via Kim’s closet (similar options)
I cannot believe we are already a month into 2016! It’s been crazy– the good kind! Last month was filled with lots of reconnecting with friends new and old, reigniting old art flames (calligraphy and colouring), and getting a dose of reality from mentors.
If there’s one thing I learned and continued to preach from a past job, it would be the importance of mentorship (both inside and outside of work) and being able to have an honest reality check every 6 months or so. Mentors are not exactly people who I seek out explicitly, but after building up a solid friendship and getting to know someone’s strengths and/or weaknesses, it starts to become apparent whose life goals are similar to my own and who I want to continue to learn and get advice from.
Last month, I had dinner with a friend who I consider a mentor with strong insights to my personal career path. She is intelligent, articulate, ambitious, and carved her own career path by having a beautifully complimentary set of skills that melt into each other like butter. She’s the kind of jack-of-all-trades who is a master of her crafts, no matter which one is called on, and has played to many facets of her strengths across all the roles and jobs she’s held over the years. (Yes, she is my real life hero.) Our conversations are always filled with takeaways and strong lessons because of the fact that she has a few years up on me and is able to give me a dose of reality for circumstances in a foreseeable future.
Before actually penning my goals both for my personal life (here on the blog) and career (privately tucked away in my journal), I talked to my mentor about them. Why? I felt like I was getting sidetracked by the “generalness” of them and potentially signing myself up to plateau instead of continuing to grow. After all the crazy accomplishments last year, I felt like these goals wouldn’t be keeping pace for personal growth, which is why I kept waffling back and forth about lofty goals vs maintenance goals. She asked the hard questions around what I wanted my future to look like and why I thought it needed to look a certain way. On top of that, she made me realize that everything I panicked about career-wise in the past were slowly working themselves out because I stopped chasing things that other people defined as their own successes and started to understand what my own measurements of success are.
Mentorship has taught me that there’s no right or wrong way too define my own happiness and successes. While I may have gotten sidetracked in the past for chasing dreams that were not necessarily my own, or for blindly trying to find happiness in things that are not at all appealing to me in the same way they are for others, I’m ok with it. If it weren’t for these past life lessons, I would have never learned how to define success for myself.
A lot of that happiness was discovered last year, and this year is all about maintaining it.